Ladies, we've all been there.
You love your boyfriend because he's cute, would do anything for you, and pipes you down just right. However, sometimes our boyfriends have flaws. And those flaws come in the form of grown men. Our boyfriend's friends can be nuisances and might just even come between the relationship if it's bad enough but what can you do? Breaking up obviously isn't an option and telling your man to cut off his friends isn't an option either.
With that being said, whether there's a valid reason for your distaste or not, there are definitely some things you can do if you really just can't stand your boyfriend's friends but you plan on staying together.
For starters, take a step back and ask yourself why you hate his friends. Is it because they're rude and obnoxious or is it because they take him away from you?
Whatever the reason, you need to really ask yourself if you're being fair because if your boyfriend spends 364 days of the year with you but he spends that one other day with his friends, maybe you should re-evaluate if you're being a little to constrictive and clingy in the relationship. On the other hand, if his friends are rude to you and they make you feel uncomfortable, you should definitely talk to your boyfriend about it. Although it's important to remember that your boyfriend's friends are not you friends, there still shouldn't be any reason that they make you feel like shit. Get your boyfriend to tell them to back off and as your boyfriend, this shouldn't be an issue for him.
Now, obviously, there will be times where you're in a group setting and you have to hang out with his friends, whether it's for a birthday, a get-together, or whatever other reason. I've been in that situation before and it's definitely something I dreaded but you just need to remember to stay above it all. Don't let his shitty friends get to you or ruin your mood; show them that you can be mature, courteous, and hold it down for your man. Conversation might be tricky and it might not go as planned but just hold your own, be polite, and exit when necessary. Throughout all of this, the most important thing to remember is that your man loves you but he also loves his friends and if both are you are making him happy, why ruin that? Let him have his boys nights, boys trips, and choose his own friends because you can't be around each other 24/7, it's not healthy. Just make sure he's not doing anything to upset you in the process; communicate with him and be reasonable.
That being said, if you don't like your man's friends because you feel like they're being rude to him or they're shitty friends, unfortunately it's not your place to step in. Definitely don't get in between the two but if you feel really strongly, talk to your man and tell him you don't think he's being treated very kindly or fairly. It's important to remember that your boyfriend is a grown man and he's capable of making decisions for himself so who he chooses to befriend is truly his prerogative. Similarly, if his friends are
being bad influences and it's getting to the point where it's actually affecting your relationship, you most definitely need to talk to your man. Just make sure you don't turn the conversation into a choice that he needs to make because the "it's me or your friends" conversations don't always turn out too well. Flip the script; how would you feel if he made you choose between him and your girls?
At the end of the day, we can't all just runaway to an warm, sunny island with our man, pets, and our favourite people. Life comes with annoying ass people that you're going to have to deal with and if those people just so happen to be your man's best friends, you're going to have to suck it up. Unleash your inner bad bitch and show them who the bigger person is; act mature, polite, and remember to exit when you're just not feeling it.
In my best Beyoncé voice, when life gives you lemons, make lemonade.
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