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This article is about my thoughts and feelings when it comes to people not listening to what I have to...

This article is about my thoughts and feelings when it comes to people not listening to what I have to say but more specifically, people not listening to me when I don't want to speak to them. This article is for anyone who feels like they are not being heard and for anyone who feels like they repeat themselves multiple times a day simply because people just don't get it. When people disregard what we say, it can cause a lot of frustration with the situation and ourselves. If what we say is ignored and disregarded on a repeated basis, then it can cause a lot more mental harm than you think. 

Plain and simple: I am just so fucking sick and tired of people not hearing me or listening to what I am actually saying to them.

So what if someone doesn't answer your text? If I don't answer your text message then don't keep texting me every 3 hours urging me to answer you. I could be busy at work, or occupied, maybe dealing with a death, or busy having great sex for 6 hours. Or maybe, just fucking maybe, I'M NOT ANSWERING YOU BECAUSE I DON'T WANT TO TALK TO YOU. Ever thought of that?

What’s even more annoying than someone not hearing my indirect and silent form of communication, known as ignoring, is telling someone you don't want to talk to them but they keep trying. A scenario that has occurred in my life a lot recently is as follows: someone ties to talk to me, I say "I don't want to talk to you," and then they try to talk to me for three hours. This has happened to me on more than one occasion. Being awesome has its flaws, but this constant urge to talk to me for three hours doesn't help anyone. It just makes me angry, mainly because you're harassing me at that point, it makes you look like an idiot, and in turn makes me hate you more than I probably already do.

I have even had people tell me that my reason of simply not wanting to talk outweighs the benefits of talking to them. I'm sorry but you're not Oprah or Obama or even my favorite celebrity so how does that even make any sense in a logical person's mind? I will keep saying this: the simple fact that a person does not want to talk to you is a good enough reason for anyone to stop talking to them and not harass them. 

No one owes you anything and nobody needs to justify their reasoning for not talking to you. Even if they did try to explain to you why they didn't want to talk, more than likely, it will go through one ear and out the other. If someone doesn't respect your own feelings, voice, or opinion, they are more than likely not going to understand or respect your justification. This is probably because their need to control you by them talking to is all they want or care about. 

So trying to talk to someone after they have said they don't want to speak with you is a form of harassment. Most of what I have explained above has happened to me online social medias or over text. So if anyone is ignoring your "no I do not want to talk right now" and they keep messaging you and trying to talk, then that's harassment. No question about it.

So how do I end up feeling when people disregard what I say? I feel horrible. I feel like they do not recognize or respect what I'm saying, let alone even recognize me as a human being. I also get very angry because this act of not listening to what I'm saying is rooted very deep in the notion that women are expected to drop everything they are doing for a man's attention. I am at the point in my life where I will delete/block anyone in my life who does not respect and listen to what I say.

I just want you to know, it is 100% okay and acceptable for me to do that or anyone else. If you have ever had a situation like anything above, just know that your feelings and frustrations are valid, you are allowed to not talk to people if you don't want to. Your justification for not wanting to talk to people is valid, and deleting others off social media who harass you is 100% valid.